First, praise God for the fact that He placed that desire in your heart!  Too many of us are content with the idea of “show up on Sunday, put something in the basket, and you’re good”.  I think that that might have been the vision of Catholicism that certain people might have had in the past, but this was never an authentic perspective of what it means to be a Christian.

This is a very good question.  The fact that you are asking this already puts you ahead of most people in our current culture.  For many people, the very worst thing that they could be accused of is “being fake”.  But I would like to make a distinction between “being authentic” and “having integrity.” Why is this distinction important for us to make?  I mean, it could seem an awful lot like I am just splitting hairs or axe-grinding by spending so many words on what might seem like an insignificant definition.  But I maintain that a great deal depends on understanding the difference between being authentic and having integrity.  And yet, it wasn’t always this way.  

Thank you for reaching out and asking this question. There are many factors at play here and clearly there is a lot here that I am unaware of. Since I do not know your son or his wife, I am only able to make a couple of assumptions. What I will offer you is based off of these assumption, so please keep that in mind when you read these words.